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And just within the past 18 months, Chaz Bono has entered the public consciousness as the most high-profile transgender person ever. This is Tori's opportunity to define herself on her own terms. Here, for the first time, Katie opens up about realizing at the age of 28 that she is gay. In these poignant, funny essays, she wrestles with her shifting sexuality and identity, and describes what it was like coming out to everyone she knows (and everyone she doesn’t). As she revisits her past, looking for any "clues" that might have predicted this outcome, Katie reveals that life doesn’t always move directly from point A to point B - no matter how much we would like it to.
Kayleen Schaefer is a journalist and author of the bestselling Kindle Single memoir Fade Out. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, Vanity Fair, The New Yorker, Vogue, and many other publications. She currently lives in New York City, and Text Me When You Get Home is her first book. Text Me When You Get Home is a validation that has never existed before. A thoughtful, heart-soaring, deeply reported look at how women are taking a stand for their friendships and not letting go. Oh I'm sure all the women who lived together for years during the 1950s were JUST friends.
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She just didn't understand that fraternities and sororities pair up even though she's clearly watched all the movies and shows about this. Later, she expresses how foolish she was to think the sorority girls who were soooo excited to see her were truly excited to see her during rush. Again, despite being socially trained by Hollywood, if not by the women in her family circles, she didn't understand how this all works. All she seemed to do is interview a handful of people about how they met their best friends, and then watched whatever was on TV that day and commented on the female relationships that were being portrayed. I will be publishing my socio-economical analysis of the ABC show 'Once Upon a Time' any day now. Does love ever work the way we say it does in movies and books and Facebook posts?
Part memoir and part social history, Schaefer's stories and illustrations show the many ways female friendship has evolved over the years. I wanted to read this book to understand WHY and HOW female friendships are important (how they evolved during the time, how we can make a difference, etc.). Though Schaefer's interview subjects aren't all of a hetero, lily-white set, urban professionals — especially writers — are overrepresented.
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But I DON'T think they're more important than my marriage or my family relationships. I think ALL my relationships in my life are important and I balance them accordingly. I think positive female friendship is an incredible worthy subject to dissect and discuss, so I was disappointed that Text Me When You Get Home only scratched the surface. I felt like Schaefer would quickly list positive female relationships in pop culture without going on to further analyze them or the effect they had on our greater society. I enjoyed Text Me When You Get Home, but I also wanted it to go deeper.
Today is the last of my summer nonfiction reviews, but it’s a bit unusual. It’s only partially a review of Text Me When You Get Homeand mostly a rumination on all the thoughts the book brought me. When you read a book and it fills you with good memories and positive emotions? It’s a bit of a rarity in entertainment these days, but is one of the most beautiful effects of reading. Some were lost on me since I haven't seen many 90's romcoms or shows such as Friends. I have no idea how Schaefer was able to focus on ONE movie for an entire chapter to make her point across.
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So, I gained some new insights and found her argument convincing. A personal and sociological examination—and ultimately a celebration—of the evolution of female friendship in pop culture and modern society. Where things got a little problematic for me was the author’s assumption that the pop culture portrayal of women as mean and competitive is true, as opposed to a construct created to sell TV shows and movies. “There’s a sense, among women at least, that achievement is a zero-sum game, and that we’re supposed to be cutthroat at all times.” If this is true, then it’s a world I don’t live in, fortunately. As a result, much of the book felt like a defense – rather than a celebration – of female friendships.
I'm not sure if my moments of enjoying the book were the text itself, or the opportunity to reflect on my friendships. The premise is solid, but I'm not sure it needed the length that it took. It was completely pointless and her examples devalued pretty much everything she argued up until then. Mostly examples of selfish women who have a hard time encouraging their “best friends” to move on and to big/better things with their lives. Text Me When You Get Home is a tribute and celebration of being a woman today, from work friendships to the fifth grade BFF that we still call every day. I felt like I kept going in circles while reading this book and it was kind of the same story told differently over and over again.
I feel these are equally important and have all impacted my life largely & helped shape me as a human. If you’re a woman struggling to connect to nonfiction, give it a try. Schaefer makes Text Me When You Get Home accessible, interesting, and eminently relatable. I’ve felt that way.” It made me regret the friendships I haven’t nurtured, and appreciating the friends who forgive my distractions. My biggest complaint about this book is that Schaefer forgoes an in-depth exploration of a complex system and, instead, gently polishes the surface to a shine.
The notion that your "best friend" should also be the person you marry is deconstructed, and that is to Schaefer's credit- I think that notion is unhealthy and it's wonderful to see it challenged here. In pop culture, the female friendship has evolved also. Schaefer discusses TV shows and movies as illustrations of how women connect. From Grey’s Anatomy and Legally Blonde, to Lena Dunham’s Girls, women are making sure friendship is rendered accurately in the media. Schaefer discusses the past predominance of “cat fights” in shows like Dynasty, and the efforts actresses and writers make today to offer a more positive portrayal. Schaefer talks about why female friendships are different now than they were fifty years ago.
Edited by critically acclaimed, best-selling author Alice Sebold, the stories in this year's collection serve as a provacative literary "antenna for what is going on in the world" . Secondly, I don't even know what this is, but it's long and full of sex and warm moments so please enjoy. I hope you're all taking care of yourselves, and whoever you are, I hope this helps to ease your mind, if only for a little while. To read on e-ink devices like Kobo eReaders, you'll need to download a file and transfer it to your device. Follow the detailed Help Center instructions to transfer the files to supported eReaders. You can listen to audiobooks purchased on Google Play using your computer's web browser.
It is a very timely and important book, however, and one I'm so glad was published. It made me realize how lucky I am to have all the women in my life that I do, both past and present, and recognize that the "all-in-one" family idea is perhaps no longer relevant for our time. Instead, we all need a group of female friends who will text us when they get home. An examination of the importance of female friendship, Text Me When You Get Home is sure to inspire a reflection about the role of female friendship in your life.
This is something she firmly believes - GIRLS AREN'T MEAN, they're just portrayed that way in our modern age. I have far more long-term male friends than female friends; this is just how high school shook out for me, and those relationships have lasted. But reading this book helped open my eyes to things that are both missing from my day-to-day and present but underappreciated.
I feel that the excessive references we're not necessary, and acted as a distraction rather than a relevant or necessary part. Feel-good read chock-full of positive affirmations about girlhood and femininity. No real plot in the sense of traditional storyline, but does have relatable anecdotes. Makes concerted effort to be inclusive of women with various identities but missed the mark a little on class. Still overall good read and provides reminder that being a good friend and having good friends is invaluable.
"Men thought that was gross. That is the heart of this misogyny and the reason we were seen as so sexual and dangerous." At least in part because they couldn't afford not to, these women raised their friendships to the same level as other relationships in their lives. They took care of each other because it was necessary for survival.
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